MeaningfulHQ.com | 085: We Need Vision 

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George Bernard Shaw once said, “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”

So, what’s the best way to go about “creating yourself”?

I believe it begins by creating a vision.

Everything big begins with a compelling vision—a clear mental picture of what you want.
People who see more clearly take more bold steps.
If you’re in a dark room and you can’t see very well, you take little small baby steps.

Why? Because you’re not sure. Things are dark. Unclear.

The more sure you become, the more confident you become, the bigger your steps. The more quickly you can get what you want.

But it doesn’t happen without a clear compelling vision. We all need vision.

 

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“We met at Starbucks.”

That’s what I’d tell people when they asked about how I met my girlfriend (now, wife.)

Little did they know, I was too embarrassed to tell them we met on Match.com.

I’d pepper lots of other little details (ehem: lies) about what I said and how I approached her, but my story about where we met (Starbucks) never changed.

I was even specific about the exact location—“We met at the Starbucks in downtown Brea, right next to the Corner Bakery.”

I did my best to keep my wife’s friends away from my friends at mutual gatherings, too. This is because she was honest with her friends and family about how we met.

And then there was the wedding…

We got married on a beautiful yacht, overlooking Newport Beach, CA. Everything about it was better than expected. Except for how much I was freaking out about my friends potentially finding out that I lied to them about how I met the woman I’m marrying. When we were planning seating arrangements, I had to make sure that my friends and family were on one side of the yacht, and my wife’s were on the other. Except of course, for the one’s on my wife’s side who promised to maintain my Starbucks “decoy story.”

It took me another two years after the wedding to tell my friends and family that I actually met my wife online. (And my dad still doesn’t know.)

I joke about it all now, because it seems so foolish that I’d ever hidden it in the first place. But truth be told, looking for love online is one of the most sensible things a single person can do for themselves…

I mean, where else can you find and drill down on exactly what you’re looking for in an ideal mate? At most reputable online dating services (not Tinder), you can filter from race, religion, and spiritual inclination; down to habits, ambitions, and geographical proximity.

In fact, according to Aziz Ansari’s new book, Modern Romance, over one-third of couples who got married in the US between 2005–2012 met each other on an online dating site. (And these numbers have likely shot up exponentially over the subsequent years thereafter)

That said, Ansari and his co-author Eric Klinenberg—the social scientist who helped him write this surprisingly well-researched book—say that social stigmas are still quite prevalent among people because they’re afraid to admit that they met their partner online … Apparently, I wasn’t the only one who felt the need to make up a “decoy story” about how I met my mate.


In this book summary/article/episode, we’ll be going over a few knowledge bombs gleaned from Modern Romance, including:

  • online dating etiquette,
  • 3 steps to crafting the perfect text message, and
  • why too many choices can be a bad thing.

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MeaningfulHQ.com/self-talk.html - Episode 083: Self-Talk

In this episode of the podcast you will learn about how:

  • Your self-talk plays a huge role in your self-image.
  • Your self-image plays a huge role in your self-confidence.
  • Your self-confidence plays a huge role in your ability to succeed in the various endeavors you decide to pursue in your life.
 

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http://MeaningfulHQ.com  //  At some point in Bruce Lee’s insanely successful and inspiring career, he sustained an injury that point him out of commission for more than just a little while…

While he was in recovery, though, he used his timely wisely. He read tons and tons of books about life and the universe. He studied some of the great philosophers. He expanded his knowledge so much, that it led to a new outlook on life.

His new way of looking at things led to several books. Today, we’ll explore a few of the knowledge bombs from one such book, titled Wisdom For The Way

 

 

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http://MeaningfulHQ.com  //  EP081: Is It Okay To Copy? - In This Episode, We'll Be Sharing 3 Knowledge Bombs from "Steal Like An Artist: 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative" by Austin Kleon

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Use “No Matter What” Commitments to Strengthen Willpower, Defeat Decision Fatigue, and Motivate Yourself

 

Here’s what the average morning scenario looked like for me before I learned how to keep my commitments:

 

  • It’s 5:00AM.
  • I’m startled awake by the sound of sirens ringing so damn loud it feels like a firetruck is plowing through my brain.
  • I realize the sirens aren’t coming from a firetruck—they’re coming from the alarm-clock app on my iPhone.
  • I continue lying there, debating with myself about whether I should hit the gym or hit the snooze button.
  • I choose to tap the snooze button for “just 5 more minutes of sleep.”
  • 45 minutes later, I wake up, forgo the gym, and head to work.

 

This pattern continued on for longer than I care to talk about…

 

The thing is though; I really, really wanted to stop hitting snooze and start waking up earlier to workout, but I just couldn’t “motivate” myself to do it.

 

So, there I was. Lying in my bed at the crack of dawn. Alarm clock blaring; moment of truth dawning upon me: should I wake my ass up and workout?—or should I stay in bed, rationalizing to myself that I’d go to the gym after work, even if I knew I probably wouldn’t?

 

Most of the time, I’d lie in bed, going back and forth in my head about whether I should get up or not… Do I really have enough time to workout and get ready for work? Will I get to work on time? What if I don’t have the energy to push myself in the gym this early in the morning?

 

Next thing I know, I’m back in la-la land, snoozing away until the last possible minute before I absolutely had to get up and get ready for work.

 

And of course, even though I told myself I’d hit the gym afterwards, I’d end up skipping almost every time.

 

Not only was I neglecting my physical health. But I was also neglecting my mental health.

 

Something needed to change...

Listen to this episode to learn how I turned this dillema around, or follow the link to finish reading the article-version:

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MeaningfulHQ.com/todd-henry-louder-than-words.html   //  Todd Henry - Louder Than Words

 

 

On this episode of the podcast, I'm joined by best-selling author Todd Henry. Here's a quick overview of the knowledge bombs you'll take-away from this conversation:

  • How to find your authentic voice
  • The power of "productive passion"
  • 3 questions you need ask yourself to ignite more meaning in your life
  • How to leverage the 3 factors to creativity --1) Identity, 2) Vision, 3) Mastery-- to start crushing it in your career.

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